FreeThe Behavior Guide
Understand why behavior happens and how to respond with calm, connection-first tools.
Certified Parent & Neurodiversity Coach
Calm, Connected Parenting for Neurodivergent & Big-Feeling Kids
A regulation-first approach for families navigating big feelings and daily overwhelm — without shame-based parenting.
Regulation FirstConnection always. Growth follows.
"When a child is overwhelmed, their brain isn't available for learning or listening."
You're Not Doing It Wrong
Meltdowns aren't a sign you're failing.
They're a sign your child needs support regulating — not more pressure to perform. When a child is overwhelmed, their brain isn't available for learning or listening, and no amount of willpower on your part changes that.
A simple, real-life framework to help you navigate hard moments with calm, clarity, and confidence — practical guidance, not perfectionist parenting standards.
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Every child deserves to feel seen and understood.
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Every parent deserves support without shame.
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Connection, not control, creates lasting change.
Parent with Grace exists to support families raising neurodivergent and big-feeling kids with more calm, connection, and confidence.
Meet Your Coach
✨ Welcome!
✨ Welcome!
I'm So Glad You're Here
"Parenting was never meant to be done perfectly. It was always meant to be done with connection, compassion, and support."
Nicole is a Certified Parent Coach and Certified Neurodiversity Coach, and the founder of Parent with Grace. She's a mom of four and lives in a household with mixed neurodivergent energy alongside her husband, who has ADHD.
After spending over 20 years in the medical field, Nicole shifted her approach when traditional parenting methods weren't working for her own family, leading her to nervous-system-based parenting principles rooted in safety, connection, and regulation.
Today, Nicole supports the North County community through the San Marcos Chamber of Commerce and serves on the Kids for Peace Kindness Certified Leadership team. She's also the author of the Grace Hollow children's book series — starring Jasper, Evie, Pixie, and Spike — and produces the Parent with Grace podcast.
You are not behind. You are becoming. Take a breath, lead with love, and stay connected.
My Approach
The GRACE Pathway™
A simple, regulation-first approach to calmer, more connected family life — built like a house, from the ground up. This isn't about perfect parenting. It's about building a strong, steady foundation.
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Regulation First
Ground
Calm creates clarity for everything that follows. Before we guide our children, we learn to steady ourselves first. Nervous system safety is the foundation that makes everything possible.
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See the Need
Relate
Connection begins with understanding what's happening underneath the behavior. Understand behavior as communication, and meet the need behind it.
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Stay Steady
Align
Steady parenting begins with regulating ourselves so we can respond with calm, clarity, and confidence — modeling flexibility instead of reacting.
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Build Safety
Connect
Connection grows when children feel safe, seen, and accepted for who they are — through attunement, boundaries, and routines.
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Connect + Co-Regulate
Engage
Growth happens together, through connection, co-regulation, and meaningful engagement. Relationship is the starting point — connection opens the door to everything.
Regulation first. Connection always. Growth follows.
Work With Me
From Power Struggles to Connection
An 8-Week Parent Coaching Journey to More Calm, Confidence, and Cooperation
8 weeks | $997
Best for parents who want long-term coaching, deeper nervous system support, and help creating lasting changes in their family rhythm.
Because this is my most comprehensive coaching experience, enrollment begins with a free consultation. This helps us make sure From Power Struggles to Connection is the right fit for your family before you make a financial commitment.
If we decide it is a good fit, you'll receive a separate invoice and next steps for enrollment.
Look beneath the behavior. Discover the need. Transform the response.
"This isn't about fixing your child. It's about supporting you."
Let's Talk Parenting
20-minute complimentary consultation
Feeling overwhelmed by your child's big emotions, challenging behaviors, or daily power struggles?
Let's discuss what's happening in your home, what you've already tried, and what kind of support might help your family move forward.
This is an opportunity to ask questions, learn about my coaching approach, and see whether working together feels like the right fit.
Book a Free Consultation
Resources + Shop
Start with support that meets you where you are
From regulation tools and gentle children's books to encouraging apparel, every resource is designed to support calmer, more connected family life. Every small shift toward connection matters.
Free
FreeRegulation Signature Bundle
A calming toolkit for supporting emotional regulation and reducing power struggles in your family.
- Anchoring the Storm Co-Regulation Guide
- Calm Reset Visual Tool
- Regulation Kit Checklist
- Parent Calm Scripts
Coming SoonFrom Childhood Patterns to Calm Parenting
An Inner Child Reflection and Emotional Regulation Workbook for Parents
A guided workbook helping parents explore how childhood experiences influence their reactions, recognize emotional and physical stress responses, and develop practical regulation skills for calmer, more connected parenting.
Coming Soon on Amazon
$377-Day Calm Reset
A seven-day, self-guided experience with practices and reflection for calmer days and stronger family connection.
Grace Hollow Books
Gentle, heart-led stories that support emotional awareness, connection, and growth — for children and the adults who love them. Featuring Jasper, Evie, Pixie, and Spike. Available in paperback and e-book.
Apparel Collection
From "ADHD Is My Superpower" to "Handle With Grace," these pieces were created to celebrate neurodivergent families.
Community
Real support, close to home
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Coffee & Grace
A monthly email with gentle encouragement, practical tools, and honest reflections for the parenting journey.
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The Podcast
Conversations on calm, connected parenting — real talk for families raising neurodivergent and big-feeling kids.
Listen Now
Let's Connect
Ready to feel more calm and connected?
Have a question or ready to get started? Send a note below — I'd love to hear from you.
Nicole@parentwithgrace.com
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Saturday & Sunday: Closed